Intervention which serves as the way of motivating someone who doesn’t want help has to be effective. Making it effective requires a structured and time tested program such as 7 habits of highly effective people. Its intersection with the philosophy and paradigms of Intervention enables the interveners to align to the principles and paradigms required to recover and reclaim the Alcoholic.
Transformation requires changing our habits and paradigms. A habit is the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire. Paradigm is a mega belief. It is a lens of our preconceived ideas through which we see the world. If our paradigms are not inline with realities and needs of Alcoholism and Intervention, our attitudes, behaviors and responses will not be effective or appropriate. We will be lost as a person trying to function in Chicago with the map of New York. What we need is a
PARADIGM SHIFT that will empower us to handle the problem of alcoholism differently. Below are the 7 habits of highly effective interveners, in brief:
Habit 1: Be Proactive is the habit of Personal Choice and the ability to control one’s responses, rather than reacting all the time, as is so often the case.
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind is developing respect for results and consequences and is the habit of personal leadership – leading oneself that is; towards what you consider your aims.
Habit 3: Put First Things First: Entails principles of managing one’s own self. It is about organizing and implementing activities established in habit 2.
Habit 4: Think Win/Win: is the habit of interpersonal leadership. Win-win is based on the assumption that there is plenty for everyone and success follows a co-operative approach more naturally than the confrontation of win-or-lose.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be understood: This is the habit of effective communication and is extremely powerful.
Habit 6: Synergize: this is the habit of creative co-operation – thereby encouraging team effort which is also one of the basis of intervention.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw: is the habit of self renewal and it necessarily surrounds all the other habits, encouraging them to happen and grow in the spiritual, mental, physical and the social/emotional domains.
Effective interveners need to understand how to manage their time and energy in order to be effective. The things they are concerned about could be termed as circle of concern and the things they can really do something about is termed as circle of influence. This program empowers a person to focus time and energy on the circle of influence in order to be an effective intervener.
The habits themselves are based on some important principles. One such principle is that of P/PC Balance. “P” refers to production of desired results (such as achieving the recovery of the alcoholic). “PC” refers to production capability or the ability to produce successful results. Successful intervention is the inevitable result of P/PC balance!
Habits 1, 2 and 3 (Be Proactive, Begin With The End In Mind, Put First Things First) deal with self mastery. They are the “private victories” required for character growth. Private victories precede public victories.Habits 4, 5 and 6 are the more personality-oriented “public victories” of Teamwork, Cooperation and Communication.The seventh habit (sharpening the saw) augments all the pervious habits and creates self renewal. Learning and living by 7 habits makes a person highly effective intervener and a person. After all transformation in our lives and family can never happen if we don’t change the very fabric of our thought