For Intervention to succeed we need to learn assertiveness because we are tuned to enabling and provoking and addiction thrives on such behaviors. This short course in assertiveness has been designed with a few objectives in mind. Assertiveness actually means communicating effectively and that’s what we need most with a loved one who has addiction or alcoholism. Assertiveness helps us to express our view point clearly while keeping mutual purpose and mutual respect intact. We can express our feelings comfortably and ask for a solution in a non threatening way.
Although we communicate differently with different people, still we have an identifiable Communication style. It consists of verbal and non-verbal components. To begin with you need to go through an Assessment of your communication styles with others generally and with your loved one specifically. In order to change the outcome you may need to change your style. It will also give you courage to initiate intervention. Training in assertiveness brings stability in your mood and empowers you to seek support from meaningful people. Nonetheless it preserves the alcoholic’s dignity and your purpose while you intervene. This short course in assertiveness will help you a lot in the intervention you will conduct with your loved one. Obviously there are Do’s and Don’ts in assertiveness. There are Rules of Thumb and Tips that you can use even today. You will know the importance of “I” Messages, “You” Messages. There are exercises in assertiveness which develop and strengthen your mental maps in the direction of assertive communication. You will learn to use the feeling language and benefit from the dictionary of feeling words. And there is a ready to use Assertiveness formula.